HELP: My oncologist told me to prepare for the worst and hope for the best, what does that mean?
What your doctor is trying to tell you is that your life will never be the same again. Moving forward, you will see your life in two halves: BC (before cancer) and AD (after diagnosis). While most people never want to think or prepare for the worst, you are being advised to do so now. You’re not ready, you’re too young, your kids need you – you just want to cling to the hope.
Ideally, you are a “prepper”, and all is in order. If it’s not in your nature, preparing for the worst means making sure your life is in order. That is completing your relationships, leaving nothing unsaid, and ensuring your Will, Power of Attorney, Power of Attorney for Personal Care, Advanced Directives and End-of-Life Plan are in place. This is difficult personal work, but so much easier when accompanied by a Master Integral Coach and Certified End-of-Life Doula.
Having faced the potential worst-case scenario and prepared for it, does not invite or precipitate the end of life. On the contrary, it lays fertile ground for your second half of life. This is where the hope lives.
With support to deal with paperwork, discussion options, work through fears and support your loved ones you can focus on making each remaining hours, days, months, years, and decades richer and more meaningful. No matter how long your AD half will be, it will be different – make it impactful.