HELP: I feel like my life is spinning out of control ever since I received my diagnosis.
Receiving a serious illness diagnosis can be an overwhelming and emotional experience, often leaving you feeling like your life is spinning out of control. Suddenly, the plans you made seem unimportant, and decision-making becomes a constant source of uncertainty. You may find yourself thrust into the medical system, where your focus narrows to fighting for a cure or more time. However, despite the help medical professionals may offer in treating your illness, you may neglect or delay seeking support from non-medical professionals who could help in all other aspects of your life. Instead, you may think that you, your friends, or brochures can meet all of your needs.
Studies have shown that end-of-life doulas offer clients an increased sense of control. By providing a listening ear and emotional support, doulas can give you an opportunity to express your thoughts, feelings, and concerns about your diagnosis and what is coming next. They can also help you process your fears and concerns and find ways to cope with the changes you’re experiencing, helping to stop the feeling of spinning out of control.
Doulas can help you regain control by guiding you in creating a plan based on your wishes, preferences, and values. This plan can include information about the types of care and support you would like to receive, the people you want involved in your care, and even your wishes for spiritual or emotional support. Because doulas are not tied to any institutions, they can advocate for you and accompany you through your journey, regardless of where you receive care. Working with a professional one-on-one provides a tailored and personalized approach, offering advice at the precise moment you need it, without overwhelming you with all possible scenarios.
In summary, receiving a serious illness diagnosis can lead to feelings of being overwhelmed and a loss of control. However, as an Integral Master Coach with ten years of experience and a certified end-of-life doula, I can offer you and your loved ones support and guidance to help you regain a sense of control and make the most of the life you have to live. Based in Perth, I offer in-person services to residents in surrounding communities, including Carleton Place, Rideau Lakes, Westport, Smith Falls, and Merrickville.
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